Also.....going with what tealbumblebee said in the response above me. You have to get her to acknowledge and see that you have taken a big step with coming to Therapy and opening up about your cutting. That alone shows you have the mindset and strength of wanting to work on recovering. ..but the key word is 'work'. It's not going to happen overnight. This is not an encouragment to continue to self harm..but there has to be an acknowledgment that it is going to take time to work towards not self harming. That an over night approach doesn't work because that is a dangerous ultimatum and can usually lead someone into a deeper self harming spiral from trying the all or nothing approach just to appease the T and not doing it for yourself.