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Originally Posted by healingme4me
That's the thing about the need to feel 'valued'. It's actually my number one need, I've discovered. And it's the most ambiguous of needs to articulate that is out there from any needs based list.
It takes a combination of other needs to be met, to feel the valued need is fulfilled.
Articulating needs, isn't about just accepting that this is the way the other person is, but it's not abnormal, to say, listen, I have a need that needs to be met, for me to feel that I am a priority.
When this need wasn't met, it left you feeling 'frozen out.' You've expressed wanting to feel included, just a little over the phone or a personal message. If he can 'like' a fb status, he can just as easily send a PM through fb. That's just my opinion.
Will things, after this trip, truly go back to 'normal', upon his return? This is the type of event, in a relationship, that sounds like it could potentially breed resentment. It's the type of thing, that can leave a person vulnerable.
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Yes, I already do feel resentful to be honest. Still not mad yet but hurt and something else that I can't totally put my finger on. Thinking that he may have missed my last FB message (we both have Windows phones and since he has not installed the actual FB app, it can honestly be easy to miss), I almost sent him a second message just to say hello (but to not say anything about not hearing back from him) but decided to just let it stand...If he missed my message, he should alsobe wondering if I'm okay. I'm not trying to play any games...I'm just trying to take a step back and not be the one pawing at him for attention. Not sending me any kind of msg in response to the last one I sent for four or five days is a little absurd to me but I can't resolve it now at this point and won't be able to get any clarification until he's back and we can speak live. A little frustrated and sad at the moment.