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Originally Posted by healingme4me
I'm curious, about 'seem even more as if he doesn't care about my feelings.' ?
Takes two to communicate in a relationship. Does this, statement, mean, that already, before this trip, you've felt this way?
Stating specific needs, need not be stated in an emotional manner. I agree, stated matter-of-fact. I need this, where can you meet me, with this? It's about being in touch with what it is that you need, to you own very core, to be able to express. Not wish-washy, not emotive styled, just frankly honest about what it is that you need, in order to feel satisfied and fulfilled with your relationship.
From my own experience, in personal relationship communication, in a matter of fact way, it's been appreciated and expressed as appreciation for honesty.
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I'm a fairly communicative person and have expressed how I feel about certain of his behaviors that make me feel as if he does not value me. Unfortunately, I have done this in a hurt and angry way and this has likely alienated him at times since this is pretty antithetical to the way he processes stuff. So, I agree that just stating what I need in a matter-of-fact way may be more meaningful to him.
He is almost never angry with anything that I do....he says he picks his battles and, even if momentarily annoyed, he let's it go because it's never really worth it to get angry. So, if we do fight/disagree, it's because I've brought something up. However, there was no fight before he left...we had a really nice home-cooked meal with wine and then brunch before his flight. Hell, he even texted me as he was boarding the plane to let me know he was about to take off.
So, I just don't understand about the lack of contact for the last four/five days....he did mention something about crazy roaming charges, but I don't know how they work with using FB on a phone (rather than on a computer)...Eh...I guess I'll just have to wait to talk with him after he gets back...in this regard, I'll try to see it as an opportunity to work on my patience!