I do have to say that while my T and I do say "I love you," it takes about 15 seconds every month or so. When I initially started saying it we did talk about it and what it meant a few times briefly, but this is over the course of the 300+ sessions that we've had. So it's not at all our focus. Expressing love with these words (because we express it other non-verbal ways--hugs, how we look at each other, her deep concern for me, etc.) is organic and we focus on treating my past trauma and abuse, not on our love - this just is, no need to focus on it.