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Originally Posted by Butterflying
I've read all your replies. First I appreciate your responses. It is probable that my T cares. He said it wasn't good for me to rely on him to feel better. At the same time he has let his anger show and loses his patience with me. That part hurts and I think it's true that he should be talking to a supervisor or coworker to help him not become so resentful.
It's his anger and insensitivity that gets to me. He is smart and gives good direction--it's his delivery. He also likes sarcasm. He thinks he's funny. When it's directed at me I don't. We've had that conversation several times too.
I am still on the fence about my appt which is tomorrow. I think I don't want to subject myself to him. Then I think I could write down things that have been hurtful. Then I could read it or use it as I tell him face to face.
He might not even be considering that he hurt me.
I know I'm getting sick of it all.
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Hi Butterflying,
I can understand why you feel upset. If you are a sensitive person like I am, "delivery" is just as important as the verbal message itself. It's in the delivery that we pick up on our t's attitudes and emotions towad us. I don't like sarcasm either.
I think you've summed up the problem well -- by stating that your t provides helpful direction that you value -- but that the way he delivers the messages to you is upsetting to you. I think you have every right to tell him this, although you might need to explain to him what exactly it is about his delivery that you don't like (he may not see it!)
While he is certainly entitled to speak the way he wants to, if his goal is to develop a healthy t relationships that fosters respect and forward movement, he needs to be concerned about how his behaviors affect you.
Please let us know how things go.
Peaches