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Originally Posted by Sadley
I've been on POF as well, not having any luck. Well I'm definitely not extroverted, and I try hard to make my profile sound non-cliche. Also not a dog person. When I pm a girl I always make sure I ask her some kind of question relevant to her profile, as well as comment on some things we have in common.
The one girl that I did go out with (and this was the first and only date I've had in my life) didn't look anything like her picture either. It went horribly for me too. She brought her friend from work, and she left only after like 30 minutes. I have to say I am probably too agreeable myself, and I don't know how not to be nice as it seems most girls get turned off by this.
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Well, as long as you are genuinely nice... I see nothing wrong with that. I know it sounds terribly cliche.. but I guess you just have to meet the right person for you. If she's right, she'll love being treated with kindness! Honestly, I hate that nice guys seem to come last. It's like girls have a masochistic fascination with guys who are bad for them. Maybe we all have a Saviour complex or like a mother complex where we think we can save them and nurture those bad guys into being better men. I don't know.
Just keep trying. That's all we can do. Maybe try in different ways? Find some kind of local club or hobby place that you can join of a subject or activity that you're really into?