I'm going to sound like an old sourpuss here, but I think it was inconsiderate of him to say he wanted to have dinner and then pop in at the last minute and cancel. Even if this were a male OR female friend of mine doing such a thing, I'd be more than disappointed.

You've made it clear to him how you feel, and he has recoiled. It's clear he does not share the same feelings, and from what you've described, I'm not even sure he is that good as a friend.

I do not buy into the "poor guy just doesn't know how to communicate," etc. He sounds like a jerk that hangs out with you till he meets another girl with whom he wants romance. You deserve much more, and much better treatment.

Have you read the book HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU? What you describe sounds very much like some of the scenarios in that book. While the book is filled with stereotypes and misinformation, there are some basic truths in it also. Such as....a man will make it known to a woman if he wants to be with her romantically.

Patty