Twinks. I hope someone that knows better may help here also...all I know is that I have asked my T if what I feel for her is all about past relationships, what is real then? she says that there will be real feelings in the room but only through the process and time and talking a whole lot will the real from the fantasy be revealed....she said even if we talk about this EVERY session for how ever it takes....I'm afraid this is as far as my being able to help goes...sorry.