Janniebug...so sorry we got off on this tangent. This is your thread, your question, after all. I need to clarify why I recommended the book to you....I read it two years ago when I was being treated shabbily by a man. At the time of reading it, it was very helpful in giving me clarity which I needed badly at the time. It was also validating in a humous and gentle sort of way.
Patty