What helped me in the past to distinguish the two is to think of someone I love in my personal life, say a bf, and all the stuff I know about him...what he likes to eat, how he drives, how he acts with kids/dogs/cats, what makes him laugh/sneeze/cry, how he talks to his parents/children, etc.

Then I tried to answer the same questions for my T. Well, heck. I have no clue...cuz I don't really KNOW him. I just had thoughts and feelings about him....but they came from within me...not from truly knowing him.

I hope that helps. I know how difficult this issue can be.

Em