Fwiw, I was in hospital because I had food poisoning and my mother called me and harrassed me to come home. Some people are just oblivious. My mantra lately has been, this only matters to me. Maybe for some people, if it matters to them, it matters to their mother - boy, what fantasyland is that, eh? But for others of us, our mothers only think that if it matters to THEM, it should matter to us. What DOES matter to us, doesn't matter. It's hard to do on our own. but other people get it and support you/us.

Eta: I forgot - fantasy land does exist... with my t; for wiki's kids; for us who come here. This list is not all inclusive!