I'm struggling with something like this right now. When T1 left for the summer, I went through a period of madness where I felt I desperately needed some kind of contact. I had avoided googling her while I was seeing her, but once she left I gave in to the impulse and googled her. Without much effort I stumbled across her facebook page, which was marginally "disguised" by a variation of her name. I looked at it a few times and vowed not to return, since it made me feel creepy and transgressive.

My dilemma is this: she's starting up her private practice and I will be going back to seeing her. Ordinarily, I would chalk this whole thing up to a natural need to make contact during a difficult time, forgive myself, and not worry much about it. But her facebook page is too public. If she's going to be seeing clients, and she values her privacy, she needs to tighten up the security of her page. Right now, it's not just her photos that can be seen, it's her friends list, which includes family, and I'm pretty confident she doesn't want that available to all us transference-addled clients.

I need some group wisdom. When I see her, should I sack up and tell her what I did, in the interests of letting her know she's exposing herself and her family/friends to the public? Or should I butt out and figure she knows what she's doing and doesn't need me as a mother hen? I'm not happy about telling her I creeped her, but I'm willing to take the hit if it alerts her to something she may not be aware of.

What do you guys think?