Hi there. I just wanted to say that it has also been years since I quit that stuff, and it is very doable, but simply not easy. Many people out there, like myself and allme, have quit that crap, and many more will continue to quit. If we can all quit doing it, that gives you some ace chances, and proves it's doable. Self-harm is not, nor has it ever been your friend! I used to think something similar, but it's absurd. Friends shouldn't repeatedly hurt you, make you feel guilty, make you feel more depressed, make you feel ashamed, etc. Self-harm is no more your friend, than Hitler was an angel.