Both seem to be about stifling rather than encouraging your free will, encouraging your ability to make good decisions for yourself. THAT should be what parenting is about, preparing your child to face the world. That you knew to wash the dishes should have been celebrated. even some g movies arent that clean, but I see your point - my uncle never allowed my cousin to read my copy of Jane Eyre or David Copperfield because he didn't want her to turn out like me, I suppose, whatever that is! I took the copies back many years later when I found out. He had this weird look on his face. That is one of my hints that my family thinks I'm a perv.