Dear purple moon
I am sorry to hear that you have experienced similiar behavior with your husband. How and what steps did you take ....It must have been very hard to take and move forward like you did. Are you doing better now?

I appreciate your validation, it is very confusing. I know that I cannot help A, and emotionally, I know it is not my fault. I am left feeling like I am moving in slow mo...without a clear direction or plan.

I feel overwhelmed, and I do not have an infrastructure in place as all my friends here aside from A are work related.

I am trying to move from anger, betrayal, shame (that I made such a bad decision), and grieving for the loss of my best friend. The stonewalling, blaming form of communication is draining and sets me in spin cycle so I have not moved forward. I want to move forward from this "victim, martyr" thinking that I am inundating myself with now.

Thank you for your words and prayers, purplemoon, I will keep you close in mine.
tessa