Sept, I just saw your post. You have nothing to do with my question, other then it was cool to see similar words. No, for me it was that I can be the instrument of peace. I called the mother yesterday and we spoke as though we were merely acquaintances. I made sure there was peace and she stayed positive. She is very frail and pitiful and really does not understand the entirety of her actions. I also found out that my sibs all have degenerative disk disease. That was a mind opener. It was ok to speak with her and see who we are now.