This is so very true and when I am in therapy and at my pdoc they stress this, we must take care of ourselves, and do not ever have feelings of guilt that we may have not done enough, not all people fall into this trap, but sometimes I get to feeling like this. I've been told by many that I have done all things humanly possible, and that I am not Superwoman.
Keep in mind what Gloria just said here, kim.

((((((((((((((( for all ))))))))))))))

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