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Old Sep 28, 2013, 01:49 AM
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Originally Posted by bronzeowl View Post
I've gotten the first one from my mom. That one does hurt. I never know how to reply to it, either. Because like I said, I know she is. But hearing that one can feel like they don't realize /you/ are, too. Or, like you said, that they think it's a competition.

I admit that I feel like I'm slightly guilty of the second one with this post. I'm sorry to anyone if it does seem that way.

I just mean to say that I know this person is suffering, too. And I would never say that I want to be them because I know it would make them not only wonder why, but feel as though I were belittling their own suffering. Which is exactly how I felt.
Well, my sister is the one who says that to me--and since I know her, I know that that is how she means it--as a competition. She's very competitive when it comes to her "suffering," and she always wants everyone to know that she has harder than everyone else. But I can see what you're saying--many times people do mean it in a better way, just trying to be understanding.
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