I don't think it's fair to make every thing the same lump sum. Not every one who drinks goes out of control. Many people drink 2 or 3 glasses of wine every nite, others 2 or 3 shots, others 2 or 3 beers and amazingly they can stop and it does not interfere with their lives at all. Sure they may be using it as a "crutch", and so what. Who here among us is not using some thing as a crutch to cope? Many of us need meds every day, a cup of coffee, a cigarette, etc. I believe as long as what your doing is not illegal and it's not interfering with your live, then leave them alone. It's not fair to assume every one who drinks will turn in to a wife abusing alcoholic or depend on it so bad that's all they think about. Yet this is the stigma drinking has caused. It's a case by case. If you have a history of abusing any substances, then I think it's fair to warn them about the harms of getting out of control. Let's not give alcohol the same stigma people give mental illnesses or even ADD/ADHD.