Do you and your husband know where each of you begin and the other ends? I don't really understand this question. I'm not offended. If your asking if we are co-dependent we are not. As far as health care goes yes we are very much the other ones advocate when the other is not capable of doing so. We are around each other a lot but are usually doing our own things until dinner, we cook dinner together, eat and then back to our own things until bed unless it's art day. Then we're 'required' to spend the night at the table working on our own projects. I don't know if that was what you were asking. Sorry, if not explain please explain. Can I ask what made you think that?

Confused sorry, I think you may be implying that we should let each other self-destruct because it could be making ourselves worse? It's far easier for others to see when you're not yourself than it is for you to. I ('m starting) understand that currently it's 2 drowning people trying to save the other but it doesn't stop us from trying. Is that what you are saying?