Please don't talk to him again. I just made this mistake myself. I was in a four year relationship with someone I loved very much who had abused me emotionally, verbally and physically. He also raped me and for a long time I was unwilling to accept that it really was rape. I tried confronting him about it and he denied it and became physically abusive over it and broke up with me. Well I made the mistake of giving him a second chance and lying to myself about the rape issue (he'd never do that right?) and I started talking to him on the phone but he did just the same thing this guy did- he started twisting my words around and blaming me for the failure of our relationship and claiming I was abusive so I told him it was over and hung up on him. Even though everyone was telling me not to give him a second chance I felt I had to in order to get closure and when I realized he was not going to change I was able to accept the abuse for what it was and cut him out of my life. I hope you are able to do the same and please stay away from this guy- he is not going to give you an apology or admit what he did wrong so why upset yourself talking with him again? Keep getting therapy and move on with your life and don't let this incident define you. You are worth more than that and I wish you the best.