I lived alone 13 years. It is very hard! Fortunately I was in a city and had a few things (library, for example) in walking distance. I joined the Friends of the Library and I got a local community garden in the spring/summer, things like that. So, I occasionally had places to go and eventually I found a friend or two. Having a project or goal, even if only saving up for a house or something else "big" you want (school, travel, etc.) can help focus you outside of just where you "are" now and move you forward a bit. I would save for writing courses and conferences, etc. When I changed jobs in 1974 from a Federal job and got my "retirement" money (only a few hundred dollars) I bought a big office typewriter (since it was before computers :-) and worked on my poetry, etc. Get some "theme" going in your life and that helps some.