80 hours a week, is definitely, too much. I did that for a couple years, with moments of 60+ hours on the slower weeks. During that time, I had my first bout of Optic Neuritis, which was the beginning step towards my MS diagnosis. Was dealing with an ailing step dad, at the time, and I went from being financially responsible to financial chaos, all during that time frame. Never mind trying to maintain a full blown, committed relationship, the one I maintained was casual and squeezed between both of our insane hours at work.

About the time, I took the Thanksgiving holiday off, with a snarky comment from a demanding boss, about "I hope you 'enjoyed' your day off", um, hello! it was the last one spent with my stepdad, hope you 'enjoyed the rock you crawled out from under', was about the time I tossed my keys in and waved the white flag. Moved in with a friend, closer to my mom and stepdad and appreciated the final month with him.

Don't know why, your husband is saying you can't cut back for finances. Of course, he's doing everything around the home, you just aren't there, how could you be there, 2 full time jobs is what 80 hours adds up to. And now, his love is lost? huh?

Therapy and maybe some for him, and joint, as well. How can love be lost, if you aren't even, at home???



Just really sorry to read you are going through this. How can the home budget be reworked and revisited, to help you out some?