would this be manipulation?
My mom spilled some seeds on the kitchen floor and I was putting some soup into the microwave. She asked if I would go get the broom and sweep it up.
I said "kay, just let me put this in the microwave" and I put some salt, and garlic powder into my soup. Stirred, and then she suddenly got really mad at me.
While I was putting my soup into the microwave she threw a hissy fit, and went to get the broom herself.
"Fine, I'll get it." she said
Apparently she stepped onto the seeds and she didn't like it.
She gave me the death glare and silent treatment when she came back.
"I was going to get it after I put my soup in the microwave." i said
"well you know what? I'm making food for EVERYONE not just myself and when I need things picked up I need it now."
Now I get a bit offended, first she gets impatient with how I do things, second she says I'm selfish in some way because I don't make food for everyone, and third she's giving me this guilt trip treatment.
"I was just putting my soup in the microwave...you could have waited" >
she gives me more of that "you know you're wrong, and that you're selfish" look.
>:/
grrr
"Okay, I'll try to react faster next time sorry." i said
and then she finally calmed down from her anger, seemed collected and I think it's exactly what she wanted to hear.
(she was fine for the first few seconds while I put my soup into my bowl, and seemed to understand and respect that I was doing that, but then she got really impatient, freaked and did this whole thing.)