It's easier if there's something we like to do/about ourselves. I don't think you become charming by "wishing." My brothers and I were born charming :-) but I'm not thrilled with charm so much because I use it to get out of "working" and wish I'd work instead of "cheating." Find the things/ways you "cope" well or things you do well or just like to do and that's where your "gifts" lay. When I started therapy it was because I literally lived in a fantasy world. Guess what? I'm great at fantasy :-) It's almost magical how I can "change" reality. The sky's green, did you know? I can convince you of it (or at least convince you that I see it that way and that that is a superior way to see it :-) What is it my husband said last night? I'm "vivacious". I'm thinking, "yeah, right, like that's true" but that's just my lower self-esteem talking. Ask someone else to tell you what they see in you and then just "accept" it and work on seeing what they see. It's there, you just can't see it.

What classes did you enjoy in school? I think we overlook what comes "naturally" to us because we just feel like other people can do it too only they can't. I still remember when my T was fascinated/in awe of me when I brought in my "Bisquick Biscuit Basket" I'd made to show her. She couldn't cook at all! I was complaining because my "basket" wasn't very good by my standards but she wouldn't even have started such a thing. What do you "do" and think about it seriously as if you were someone else who'd never done "that."