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Originally Posted by nevergoodenough
It seems to come so easily for other people, but I obsess over what to say and over what my personality is and I just have nothing to say. I feel like an empty void. I hate small talk but on the other hand I don't know what else there is to talk about. Just wondering if this is a depression thing or a social anxiety thing or both.
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I don't know the source, but I can definitely relate. I can only talk to people I know really well. For me, I do think part of it is my social anxiety disorder or depression or shyness. But, part of it is also that I just really hate trying to come up with things to say just to appease people who are uncomfortable with silence. I'm not a sports person, not much of a tv watcher, pretty much only like movies that are 30 years older than I am, don't care about pop culture, and listen to music that 99.5% of the population doesn't care about. Trying to smile and make small talk about "the game" or celebrity gossip or the new blockbuster movie just hurts my head and makes me wonder if I'm actually an alien or something.
I also tend to shut down around people who are super opinionated or who seem to demand all the attention in the room. If I'm going to have a conversation with somebody, I want to relax and converse....be talked to...not talked at. I'm trying to get better at the whole small talk thing, but not really because I want to have something to say...I just simply realize that in order to dig myself out of the situation I've created for myself and have a better life, I need to learn to interact more comfortably with the other humans.
