It sounds like some of your T's remarks are inappropriate, which does make me rather uncomfortable.

The more important aspect, imo, is how YOU feel though. I can understand you wanting to get second opinions, to see if you're over-reacting.... but....There's a part of you that is obviously uncomfortable with your T. Personally, I believe that you are picking up on these unprofessional remarks and behaviors and you are rightly scared! Don't go back just to end things "his way". If you're uncomfortable, you shouldn't have to force yourself to withstand it again.

Gentle hugs to you ~ Listen to your body, it's telling you something.