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Originally Posted by PAYNE1
Hello, will I get married, and welcome to Psych Central! I can't say I totally understand what your story is, but I don't think there is any way you can "prove" to him that what you said is true, unless these guys are polled and they tell him there was no sex. I'm not sure that could be done.....
So, were these guys you kept in touch with actual previous boyfriends? Is that what you are saying?
What did you actually lie about to him? What did you say? And then what did you later say was the truth?
I can see why he would be distrustful of you since you did lie to him. And trust is important in a lasting relationship.  |
Initially I told him only about one ex boyfriend and said nothing about flirting etc. But he found out some parts of my past and finally, after telling the truths in small portions each time, I came clean and confessed everything. I hadn't been in touch with ex but couple of people I'd lead on/flirted with - but only spoke to them as acquaintances and nothing more. But now the problem is, even after I confessed to everything, he still feels that I am lying and feels he should believe what others tell him.
i really am in a fix. He keeps changing his mind as to whether to remain in a relationship or breakup. He tries to convince me every day either to leave him/be just friends/marry someone else soon but I have told him that I can't do any of those. I really want to make this work.
