I don't know, guys. We're seeing these comments out of context. My T told a friend of mine who sees him that she is cute. She has huge self image problems and he was pointing out that she dresses really well and is very cute, and the comments being made about her appearance by her husband are inaccurate and hurtful.

When my T discusses the fact we cannot have a friendship after therapy, he talks about respect for me and not being one more person in my life who uses me just to meet his own needs. He talks about respect for his marriage and mine. He rarely mentions the ethics rules. If he told me we could not have a relationship because there's a rule against it, for me (and maybe this is just me) that would raise the idea that except for this rule, he would totally have a relationship with me and if we can wait out the two years, there's hope. The way he states it makes it clear that (1) he is putting respect for me and my needs ahead of anything else and (2) no matter what, we are not having a relationship outside of therapy.

He has also said that if I quit therapy with him, he would find it painful because he likes me. I grant you the "killing" him thing is a bit over the top. I also don't think it's weird that he wants a final session to be face to face. That's pretty typical of therapists, isn't it?

All of that said, if the OP feels uncomfortable, that is something to follow up on. I just don't think these comments, in and of themselves, indicate that the T is being unprofessional.