im just wondering if my therapist is just being nice or does he have feelings for me some examples are:
i said all men want is sex and he said not me i have to much respect for you and i said yeah and plus your married so that wouldnt be right and he said people do things that arent right all the time thats not my main reason my main resson is respect for you. I don't understand- he doesn't want to have sex with you BECAUSE he's respecting you?
A- so it's either respect or sex?
B- he's your T- isn't that a good enough reason? That he's married- well, we are talking about thinking about not actually doing it (I hope) and I think (not married) it's perfectly normal for married ppl to have these fantasies...
More importantly though- I don't like how he made this generalisation about him
he always text me back and answers all my questions even if they are not therapy related and it may not be right away but he always rights back even if its 9 at night. Getting back to you is professional- depends on the Qs- how inappropriate are they?
he said i was cuteand that he was sorry if it was wrong of him to say but he couldnt help it. I think T saying stg positive about your appearance is OK, however, him acknowledging it's wrong to say so and that he couldn't help it-
he asked me what places i went to and said not that he was going to show up there but he was just curious and i text him by accident i ment to text someone else and i said sorry i cant come over tonight and he said "thats ok it probably wouldnt be a good idea anyway " Well, I'd take it as a joke...
and i thought i was moving once and i told him i couldnt continue with therapy and he said why are you moving and said this is killing me OTT are you at least going to come and say bye to me before you leave Newsflash- therapy is NOT about him and i tried to end it another time i text him and said that i was feeling better and felt like i didnt need therapy anymore and he said it was fine to take a break but we needed to talk about it in person.. Not ending by text- my T has this "rule" too.so i dont know maybe its just me over thinking it and hes just being nice. any opinions??