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Sep 30, 2013, 08:20 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 1,486
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I'm so so sorry... Lovely, isn't it, to reduce/simplify someone's huge and complex struggles down to an 'inability to cope.' It's so offensive. And unfair to you. I know this sounds silly, but please pamper yourself. It's easy, with MI, to become a family scapegoat, I have been there in one way or another more than once. Of course others, with un-diagnosed issues, however much they negatively impact family relationships and triangulate within the family unit (I'm thinking of my step-mother -ugh!) don't get blamed in the same way.
In the case of my stepmother, the two things that have helped me are: 1) Trying to keep in mind the times she has supported me and 2) The pain of her own behind her behavior (this doesn't come from a healthy place, amongst other things, big fat insecurities)...
Maybe once the worst of the feelings have passed, you can call or e-mail her regarding how this has affected you, how she's grossly simplified and minimized your situation, and not taking into account the many strengths you have... Also, public forum (FB), not cool. 
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