Actually, I know someone who is a doctor, and I'm amazed at his nature. He is very smooth and confident. I can imagine him when everyone else is freaking out calmly saying 'well now, what are we going to do here? first, lets do this and then that and then the next thing...' We were driving out to this place once and he was driving confidently and so we figured he knew where he was going... After a while one of the guys said 'I don't think we are supposed to be in the next state' and he said 'Oh. Well who is navigating then?'

He wasn't navigating... His wife is supposed to navigate but she said 'I never know whether I'm supposed to be navigating or whether you know where you are going because you stride off confidently and so people think you know where you are going and follow you and then all of a sudden you turn around and say "where are we? who knows the way?"

I think one can learn to change from being an anxious person into a calm person... But I think it takes one hell of a lot of work to rewire those reflexes and I think that one might always be especially vulnerable to reverting during times of stress.

I want to change. I want to be more like that :-)