It's been almost five months since my exT terminated me. I've been meeting mostly regularly with my new T since then. She (new T) has been quite helpful, and I feel a lot more distanced from the incredibly painful emotions I experienced after exT terminated me.

I'm torn now about whether I want to do a closure session with exT. She's insisted that if I want to do so, I need new T to contact her to arrange a joint meeting between the three of us. In talking with new T about this, she's said that she would really prefer that she be the one to lead any kind of closure session with exT, but that she's of course unsure about whether exT would be open to that.

My T has been pushing me to define what exactly I might want from a closure session with exT. Mostly I think I don't want to leave things hanging the way they have been for the past months. I feel like I want to go in with my head held high to tell her that I'm not going to allow her to have power over me anymore. But what would that really accomplish? I don't know. Any thoughts about what might be gained and/or lost by having a closure session?