I recently started dating a guy. I really like him which is a huge step for me. Liking guys and getting close to them has been a HUGE issue for me because of a history of sexual abuse. Anyways.. things are going really well. I'm excited and he makes me smile The problem? He doesn't know about the cutting.... and there are more scars than I could ever possibly explain away. Physically..things are getting to the point where he might see scars... and I don't know what to say. I don't want to scare him away. But I refuse to lie to him. How have any of you handled a situation similar to this? how did the react. I'm so scared I might lose something that makes me happy.... I don't want him to think he's the cause of any one of those scars or cuts. If anything... having something positive in my life is helping me slow down.