Sounds like you need those tv english nannies on nanny-911 and stuff. The make charts and give stickers and put the kids on the naughty step (in time out).

I loved watching those shows when I was living with my mom. I was in my 50's and my mom was in her 70's. I would tell her not to yell at me cuz it hurt my self-esteem, according to the show. Plus those kids made me look good, I wasnt nearly as bratty as them!! Then we would threaten each other with the naughty step. It was like the Grey Gardens of the Midwest.