Thread: Closure
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Old Oct 01, 2013, 05:02 PM
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Originally Posted by Nerak67 View Post
I just terminated with my t of 11 years. We had a serious transference issue and she became very resentful and harsh with me. It is driving me crazy that she takes no responsibility for why things weren't working. I feel like I have to convince her and get her to admit her part but I know I can't do that. I don't know how to just move on and not care what she thinks.
You succinctly summarized pretty much exactly what my experience has been. The new T I have been seeing has tried to convince me that moving on is about understanding at a very deep level that I'm ok regardless what anyone thinks about me. She also acknowledges that it might take a really long time to get there.