You're absolutely right that it feels unresolved, and I see how that could very well set me up in a huge way if I tell myself I only want a closure session to say goodbye.

I think a part of what has been so difficult with exT is that I saw good in her all along. It was when I started noticing what felt like her anger, which she relentlessly denied, that I started to wobble. I believed her perception over mine, that I was crazy for thinking she was angry.

And maybe she really wasn't angry. Maybe it was all projection on my part. What really got me though is that she refused to talk with me about it.

Thanks for sharing your experience, FKM. As I'm writing, I recognize that perhaps I want a closure session so that I can reconnect with some of the good that used to be there.