Its tough when guys and girls are friends. I know I am friends with a guy and if he ever gets in a relationship it will be really hard for me.

Emotional affairs are difficult to place blame on from an outside party, so maybe him leaning on your shoulders for support looked bad to the wife.

But as hard as it is, I think its time for you to move on and make some new friendships and step aside and let him work things out with his wife.