I hate the power differential that T has over me and I usually try to minimize it by learning more about T and trying to relate as one professional to another.

Are you a mental health professional? (I'm not.)

I see therapist not as a peer, but as someone who works hard and is interested in her profession and I do remind myself that I'm nothing more to her than an appointment on the calendar and that I provide to her just money and perhaps some professional satisfaction from dealing with my neuroses.