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chikster · Oct 02, 2013, 02:45 PM

I recently retired from providing assisted living services for the elderly. During the time I was providing my services in 2010 I was physically assaulted at a retirement facility. Right now I won't go into all the gory details about the assault but I do have a question about the counseling I received after the assault. I believe I only went two or three times for counseling and during the last session the counselor said to me, "If you hadn't experienced what you had growing up then the assault wouldn't have bothered you. You would have just gone on." Later my thought was, "Really?".

I did have a terrible childhood and that's a whole other issue!

At the time the counselor said that to me I didn't think to question her about what she meant and I didn't think much about it. But over the years since the assault and the counselor's statement, it has really bothered me off and on. I will say I don't dwell on it but I am curious. Would someone who had a wonderful childhood have just picked themselves up and just ignored what happened? I don't think so but I would like other opinions.

I really did care because I believe I have more worth than to be treated like a piece of trash.

I didn't like it as a child and why would I now not let it bother me that someone physically assaulted me when I'm an adult?

I'm not sure this would qualify as a trigger but I'll mark it as though it might be.