My wife(undiagnosed mood problems) and I(the bipolar one)have been a couple for 20 years, married 18. It hasn't been easy; like a never ending war. But this year, when I told her I'd had it with her, she did something she steadfastly refused; she went into therapy. My illness is taking its toll, physically as well as mentally but I think she finally 'gets' it how sick I am. When I say I'm fighting for my life, it's not hyperbole. I'm treatment resistant but I keep researching and giving what I find to my pdoc and primary. BipolaRNurse expresses it quite well.