Noticing someone is one thing... oogaling like the woman is merely an object is another. It's disrespectful, and contrary apparantly to what some of the men who oogle think, it's not flattering or a turn on. Like the ones that shout at you about your body parts from their cars as they drive by you.... ya that is so not gonna pick up most women. I don't know what they are thinking. Obviously not considering how they are making the other person feel. It feels anything but good at least to me. Kinda dehumanizing experience. When they do it when I am with my children......

I don't care if a man notices me and keeps it respectful. But there is a line and we are supposedly a civilized society. You dont have to make someone uncomfortable just to get a look. I think the women here understand the difference, I mean you can literally feel it.

This has been happening more and more often while I am with my daughter. She is 13!!!! And a tiny 13 year old at that. She dresses very modestly and looks about 11 or 12.

And that is a whole other topic. I am so not into slut shaming women for what they wear. You know I wear short skirts and stuff sometimes. And it is NEVER for extra attention. More often it is because I like it, it feels good on me, or its too damn hot outside. Or perhaps I am on a date with my bf.... shocker!!!I still keep it clean, I am pretty modest. It's not invitation to act like a perv. Period. Sure maybe some women do want attention..who knows. Something tells me behaviour says more than clothes to point to what one is seeking. . And that would be their choice and none of my business. Do men have to worry about this and how they dress.

Maybe men do not realize this because a lot of them would probably love to have women oogling them. There is a big physical power difference, men while being the physically "stronger" might realize to use that to offer the females a sense of protection instead of a sense of aggression. My bf doesn't mind when men notice me if it's respectful, he feels flattered, but he is very uncomfortable with the creepy leering types and gets a bit angry with that...seems even some men can see and feel the difference.

I am using some generalities I know. Seems some men did not like this thread here and had to get their say..too bad. I cant see the problem with respecting females feelings in this area. It's not a big thing to ask. When should we care about how the other feels about how we treat them.