Yes, a marriage can work with one person bipolar. And it sounds like you have a good shot. A husband who reads up on the disorder, so he can understand it better is more than most of us even hope for. Yes, you have to be responsible for your actions if you are flying off the handle for no(or small) reason. I kept doing that when I was in a mixed episode. Every day when I got home; I got mad as soon as I walked through the door. Something always set me off. I talked to me doctor and he changed my meds which helped a lot. I do still kind of have that problem but it is easier to manage. I would definitly talk to my doctor about it.

Couples therapy, also, helps. Good luck to both of you.