I used to truly believe that we could, we did. I used to think that `oh my cod' eyes across the room was love. That when we felt it no matter what, we were fated to be with that person as they were `the one' I have finally learned all these yrs later and a few `the ones' that it is lust. Sorry Poppy, didnt mean to be a pooper. I feel so free now I dont hang onto the hope that elusive love exists. I can watch Superman (again) and be realistic about the possibilty of ever meeting Henry Cavill lol. Or maybe it happens for some but not everyone.