Short answer because my book to you was erased:

The divorce statistic is 90% accorded to BP magazine, but 'normal' divorce rate is 40-50% of first marriages and higher on second + marriages according to American Psychological Association. So honestly I don't see much difference. Whether your the 1 in 10, or the 5 in 10 you have ****ty odds.

The funny thing is bipolar nurse can't see how my family can work out. I can't imagine things working out with a person that doesn't have the flavor of crazy that I have. Bipolar is not used against any one in the house.

My whole family has bipolar and multiple other disorder, on paper and encompassed in our disorder. We've only been together for 12 yrs. But I was17 when we started dating. We all vary a lot. Where my depression is functional and tolerable, his is not. My mania is explosive, and psychotic, he's more of a hyper-sexual, distracted, tantrums. He's really easy to distract. So while his depression take a major toll on his/our life, my (hypo)mania takes a toll on our family. My son is more of a fast and hard hit. Saying “Clean your room.” can trigger “I'm a burden (actually he's overwhelmed), I should commit suicide” or breaking everything in his room instead of cleaning and having to claw him off the ceiling at 4 am.

We both are slowly crawling back to reality after a month and a half on our bad sides of each other and waiting it out. I did well this time all our utilities are not disconnected, our insurance is still current, and we have not got an eviction notice. The only see able damage is my son's school program got cut but he choose not to tell us until I found out last night and I got my first tattoo, on my wrist of all places. Though I added at least a year of therapy for my son and almost pushed my husband over the edge. He was trying to hanging on and I was stomping on his fingers.

We all are in individual, family and marriage counseling. I really suggest your husband get individual therapy, and both get marriage counseling. It really has showed us what things we have control over and what we don't in regards to both ourselves and the other person. It also has made us quite aware of how bipolar effects each of us as significant others and as the one going through the episode as well as our family dynamic. Our therapists are very good at going “Hey MM your husband doesn't look well/ is increasingly aggravated. Are you worried?” or “H is MM doing okay? Did she talk to her therapists today?” as soon as the person in question leaves the room. I wish they'd tell us but whatever and simple call within a week when asking about IP or med changes would be nice too. I'm a little bitter right now.

We have a no fighting with the crazy person rule. When you're in a mood swing most pick fights but they fizzle out fast when the other person is calmly sitting there not saying anything while you throw a hissy fit. It's much like eventually the arguing person is sick of having a 'one sided' argument and they can talk like an adult. When things get loud we go back to a 'one sided' argument until the adult comes back. We all always on the persons side when delusional or paranoid. That way they'll except their meds and sleeping medication from the other person and they feel they have someone on their side even if it's them that the other one is parinoid about. Also it's easier to go in to the therapists office and say “ MM told me/is upset about (whatever current thoughts are), Why is (blamed person) doing that?” Hence the therapist know whats going on and the significant other is still one the person's side.

When we feel nothing, don't care about the other, or know we're being ***es we grab a card, that we are willing to do, out of the 52 weeks of romance box and complete it. We then put it back and pick another one. When feeling we don't deserve the other we remind ourselves we can't choose who our friends date. So as much as we want to we can't leave our significant other based on things we have done. We also have a 6 month rule on any major decision.

You really need to ask for pills that work on multiple issues at once even if it's off label use.