I guess I'm not totally sure I undersand the question. To me, the whole point of having a therapist is that she isn't my peer. Which doesn't mean that I defer to her unconditionally or that I think she is on a whole other plane socially or whatever. It means that I am vulnerable to her and I use her skills and expertise in a way that is different from the way I interact with anyone else. If she were my peer, I wouldn't pay her.

If I had met her in another context, I would probably consider us peers. I am a professional in my own right and have power and authority when I'm on the job--but not when I'm in therapy. We don't come to the relationship as equals. She is responsible for me in a way that I am not for her. This is why it's okay for us to be irrationally angry, explore our transference, cry or be childlike in T. It would be totally inappropriate to treat your friends or colleagues that way. But therapy is (or should be) a safe place for all of that precisely because our Ts have skills, perspective, and obligations with respect to the therapeutic relationship that the other people in our lives don't have. So no, I don't think of her as my peer at all.