ToeJam,

I'm astounded at the strength of the blocks life has thrown up to you.

Yes, those early teasings/bullyings made an effect on you. Now it's time to release their grip.

Three ideas come to mind: discuss with your wife recruiting a sex surrogate to help you on the physical level. Perhaps the surrogate can coo and tease to get you to a positive state of arousal and then let your wife step in and continue onto consummated sex.

Another might be re-imagining being bullied. Look around the scene in your imagination. Not everyone could have participated (members of this site, for example, even the same age, didn't because we didn't know you then). This can go many directions from here: journal or speak out loud the parts to get to where you feel these things in your body.

First step, recruit Strength to stand with you as you stand down those bullies. Imagine a Super Hero or Heroine, someone known to you or you found in fiction, or you can imagine a Special Hero all your own. Sometimes in shamanism it's called a Power Animal (mine are big cats like panthers).

With the Strength of your supporter behind you, tell your inner bullies, "You're Fired!" They will protest and laugh, but inwardly they know their time limiting you is closing out. Repeat as a chorus with your Strength Image. Fire each know and aggressive bully one at a time.

Then imagine there are attractive girls or women that holds back from the teasing because they secretly finds single-testicle men an enormous turn-on, perhaps a fetish. Maybe they had a club and were frustrated and horny because they could not find suitable Object of their Desire. They manage to corner you one day near the gym mats and no one else is around ...

Turn off the lights, lie back, and let you wife do all the work. Richard Pryor has a funny bit on this. Rinse. Repeat. Enjoy!

By the way, my brother has a single testicle and from all appearances it never stopped him for having a robust sex life.