you could copy and paste this post into an email or a fax and send it to her, that should break the ice. also, you might see if you can find a 'peer support center' often called an Independent Living Center (NOT to be confused with a residential center~!), and ask one of them to go with you or help you to communicate.

you know, many of us are well trained to fear authorities and doctors, and teachers, fear the punishment that truth often brings, and the helplessness to say what will and won't be done to us~! that is what an advocate is for.

there is also, in every state, a program called the Ombuds Program, one for nursing homes, and one for mental health. if you can find that number, they are mandated to advise and assist you to gain the proper mental health treatment.

best wishes~
Gus