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Originally Posted by Lightbulb7Seven
If you do not want to be in a relationship either just don't agree to be in one, or overcome your fears by taking it slow with an intent to mature. I used to have some of the feelings you described (like- how can you feel like a good person afterwards etc.) and the reason behind that for myself was fear and guilt related to abuse in childhood and the belief system that I was born into. As time goes on though, you will grow past this if you work on it. Perhaps you SHOULD actually be friends beforehand lol, you would at least know the person well enough to make a sound decision and be able to gauge their personality and character enough to know they would not mock or condemn you for being with them.  |
Hello Lightbulb, thank you so much for commenting my story
That's what I want to try, I'm terrified about it and sometimes I feel like, I don't want to miss another oportunity, I want to try it and be different. But the oportunity just doesn't come, I haven't known anyone n the last two years. About the belief system, this is one of the strngest thing I've tried to break or to know which believes are minre and which aren't. It's being to hard but I think I'm doing it good, I'd like to go faster and be fine once and for all :s but it doesn't work that way.
I'm happy you could find the reason why you felt that way and I hope you overcome it and have a healthy life