I don't have much to add as to how to make it work (I think the others have covered that) - but I just wanted to give you some hope and be counted among the ones who have beaten the odds, even with BOTH spouses having bipolar. My husband and I have been together for 27 years, married for 21. It hasn't always been easy, and there were times we didn't think we'd make it, but with lots of understanding and educating ourselves about what the other is going through, we've made it work. We didn't come into the marriage having any clue that either of us had bipolar. I was diagnosed 13 years ago and my husband was just diagnosed this year, but the mood issues had been there for a long time. Couples therapy has certainly helped. Good luck with your pdoc appointment. I hope you're feeling better soon.